Endometriosis

Endometriosis (en-doe-me-tree-O-sis) is an often painful disorder in which tissue that normally lines the inside of your uterus — the endometrium — grows outside your uterus (endometrial implant). Endometriosis most commonly involves your ovaries, bowel or the tissue lining your pelvis. Rarely, endometrial tissue may spread beyond your pelvic region.

In endometriosis, displaced endometrial tissue continues to act as it normally would — it thickens, breaks down and bleeds with each menstrual cycle. Because this displaced tissue has no way to exit your body, it becomes trapped. When endometriosis involves the ovaries, cysts called endometriomas may form. Surrounding tissue can become irritated, eventually developing scar tissue and adhesions — abnormal tissue that binds organs together.

Endometriosis can cause pain — sometimes severe — especially during your period. Fertility problems also may develop. Fortunately, effective treatments are available.

This information courtesy of the Mayo Clinic.

So why, since I am a male, am I wanting to write about this.....

This female condition is a hard topic for many people and couples to come to terms with. The psychological damage to a woman is huge. The feel useless due to they can in some instances not reproduce and this feeling can destroy a marriage or a relationship. Some women will not come to terms with their condition and the woman will blame the man for them not getting pregnant. I have been in that situation to it lead to alot of fighting and blaming each other and it even got to the point where she was sneaking fertility pills without me knowing. I was fine with adopting and I accepted it. She unfortunately did not. No matter how hard I tried to be a comfort and be an understanding husband she would not accept it that as she put it was "broken". I accepted that she could not naturally have a child due to this. No matter how many visits to her "female doctor" and after a couple of surgeries nothing helped and she still would not accept it. I did not find out about the fertility drugs until a few years after our divorce she had the label for the medicine hid away in a box. To this day I have long since accepted I will never be a natural father since I am now older (36) even if I met a woman that could bear children I would not want to put myself in that position again. Yes it might sound selfish to maybe deny a woman of having a child/another one, but deep down I know that I do not want to ever be in this situation again. It is hard to constantly fight with a woman who is resenting, blaming, and constantly angry at you, the husband, when no matter how hard you try to reason with a woman it is like hitting a brick wall. I have seen some women accept the condition and they are living happy lives with their husband and an adopted child or through a surrogate. 

I do not want any of you my readers to feel sorry for me for not having children. It is something that I have long since accepted that I will not ever be a natural father maybe a step father one day but I am OK with the situation and accepted it. 

A quick not about the author of this blog: I was married for 6.5 years and was divorced in 2008. It was a mutual divorce and it was hard, but that is all behind me now. I have spent the years since trying to rebuild my life and enjoyed being off the radar so to speak.